October 16, 2019

When our children get upset, often our biggest struggle isn’t what is happening in front of us, but with what is going on inside our own heads. Circle of Security has a term for this: they call it “shark music.” 

Glen Cooper, one of the Circle of Security originators, v...

October 10, 2019

If you attended any of my presentations in the last year, you likely learned about a teaching approach called the safety-challenge-threat model. It is based on more current science in the research of discipline than its counterpart, behaviorism. Instead of focusing on...

August 15, 2019

It's fine to learn tools for ways of handling the behaviors that drive you crazy, but what about the driving you crazy part? What do we do when we know what to do, but can't seem to do it? This post is a list of ways to deal with your big emotions when a child does som...

March 14, 2019

The Magical Power of Reflection is Part 4 of a four-part series on how stress in Western society aggravates children's four brain systems and exacerbates difficult behaviors.

After the Regulatory System, Sensory System, and Relevance (or relationship) System, the Execut...

March 14, 2019

Stress in the West: Joy, the Propeller of Development is Part 3 of a four-part series on how stress in Western society aggravates children's four brain systems and exacerbates difficult behaviors. After the Regulatory System and Sensory System, the third brain system t...

December 13, 2018

Stress In the West: This is a four-part series on how stress in Western society aggravates children's four brain systems and promotes challenging behaviors. After the Regulatory System, the second place the NRF looks when assessing stress is the Sensory System.

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November 14, 2018

A four-part series on how stress in Western society, and increasingly in the Majority World, aggravates children's four brain systems and promotes challenging behaviors.

Many of the newer developmental concerns in children, including more difficult behaviors, can be att...

October 31, 2018

This post gives an overview of The NeuroRelational Framework's (NRF) three step process, symbolized by a tree.

Step 1 (Roots): The first step of the NRF is to identify the nature of toxic stress in the child's nervous system. To assess the nervous system, we assess the...

September 30, 2018

Last month’s post was for parents who set so many limits on children, the kids become oppositional towards them, or self-conscious about just being kids. Conversely, if you have trouble setting limits for the child, this is the post for you.

When you are too afraid you...

August 30, 2018

Egalitarian Tools 1-3 are a 3-Part series on The Trouble with Setting Limits

Part 2: A Foreign Way to See Kids

This second post on limit-setting is about how, oftentimes, limits try to prevent children from playing out their own natural level of evolution. Being told to...

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