October 16, 2019

When our children get upset, often our biggest struggle isn’t what is happening in front of us, but with what is going on inside our own heads. Circle of Security has a term for this: they call it “shark music.” 

Glen Cooper, one of the Circle of Security originators, v...

October 10, 2019

If you attended any of my presentations in the last year, you likely learned about a teaching approach called the safety-challenge-threat model. It is based on more current science in the research of discipline than its counterpart, behaviorism. Instead of focusing on...

August 15, 2019

It's fine to learn tools for ways of handling the behaviors that drive you crazy, but what about the driving you crazy part? What do we do when we know what to do, but can't seem to do it? This post is a list of ways to deal with your big emotions when a child does som...

March 14, 2019

The Magical Power of Reflection is Part 4 of a four-part series on how stress in Western society aggravates children's four brain systems and exacerbates difficult behaviors.

After the Regulatory System, Sensory System, and Relevance (or relationship) System, the Execut...